like of course your child comes first, but i wondering if you are still able to look good and have fun.
i see these days they have words like MILF, mother i'd like to f*ck, and i am wondering, like in that case, is it that mothers are supposed to not be attractive once they have a lot of kids.Do you lose a lot of your personal freedom when you become a parent?
Yes you lose freedom but gain responsibility. Plus the love and caring of your child. The term milf is for dim witted men who have two brains and only enough blood to run one at a time. Being a parent to me was a big change and sometimes it is hard but the rewards are great. Smiling and giggling plus all the free hugs in the world. Also kids specially 2 year olds at time are just so cute. Also being attractive is how you view yourself. I particularly became more finicky about my looks after i had my son. But some people are different. They say a motherly glow makes a woman more beautiful. So yes you may lose some freedom and other stuff but you gain allot as well.Do you lose a lot of your personal freedom when you become a parent?
Well, of course! Some women tend to lose themselves in motherhood to begin with, because they are so absorbed in their new role. But becoming a mother doesn't mean you forget how to use mascara or enjoy a drink at a party. Many parents find that their activities are curtailed somewhat temporarily, due to finances, time or exhaustion. But unless you have a mom with a martyr complex, a parent doesn't lose themselves when they become a parent -- instead, they are adding a whole new facet to their life.
First,I have seen some trashy moms out there.They will dump their kids off on ANYONE(even the neighborhood child molester) to go party.
Now if all you want to do is party and have sex, then do everyone including any potential children you would have by having a hysterectomy first.
Next, when you are a parent you can still take a bath and look decent,but as far as getting up and going anywhere any time you want, that is out.THAT is what is meant by ';your kid comes first';,it ACTUALLY MEANS your kid's needs comes BEFORE what YOU want!
If a mother is not willing to do this, she should do the DECENT thing and adopt her baby out, get her tubes tied and go do whatever.
Yes, I lost some personal freedom. No I did not become less attractive as a result of having kids. But having them freed me from stressing so much about it.
My kids did not care one bit about what I wore or whether I had makeup on. They loved me anyway. I was no longer the most important person in my world. This can be incredibly liberating. It frees a person from so many of the shallow and selfish concerns that waste so much time and energy and lets them focus on the important things in life. I would say I traded one kind of freedom for another, better kind.
I know i am not a MILF but i still get checked out and i am not skinny. I have large breasts, blonde hair and blue eyes so i guess that is what it is. I don't pamper myself as i am too busy. My parents take our daughter once a week so we get time to ourselves which is great. I think people expect a woman to become unattractive once they have children. I think some women become more beautiful after having children.
There's a lot worse things in this world to be called than MILF--
It seems there are the two sides, some females who act like mormons bc they're a mom and get out the witches and pitch forks to those moms who choose to look after ourself.'in other words I'm called ''selfish and self-absorbed'' --meanwhile I make myself get up before the kids and spouse do to get my ''me time'' which for me is to go out for a run @ 5:30 am, I spend less than five minutes on hair and makeup but the difference to how I feel about myself when I take time for myself is astronomical--I feel that if I put out the projection that 铆'm worth it, then others will take me seriously.
Can I look good and have fun? yea. although i do have to admit its fewer and farther between than it used to be. I think I realized something was amiss when my husband asked me if was going to change out of my sweatpants that i had been wearing for days straight. That's kinda sad, huh? I totally am about being a mom right now. It pretty much takes most of my thought process and effort. It would be nice to actually focus on the person I was before children.
Personal freedom, yea that too. i don't have much. i usually have a kid some where on me or near me pretty much all day long. Its when they go to bed that I actually have space.
Not sure about the MILF thing. I think its probably a compliment. while i think I would be uncomfortable with it, secretly deep down I would be flattered. I still got it kinda thing.
a women can look however she wishes after she has children it doesn't take a lot to look pretty. As far as do you loose your personal freedom heck ya, most of the time i am lucky if i get to go pee without my daughter watching me.
And yes my hubby and I still have date night 2-4 times per month you do need you time just responsible you time
It's up to you how you want to look. I am totally 100% committed to caring for my kid/s and so is my husband. I still make it my duty also to look good for myself and for him. It's not that hard...well maybe a little in the beginning =) But it's all worth it!!
I have 6 kids and their ages range from 32 to 4 years old. I am 55. I heard one of my 16 year old twin boys friends at a pool party last year, tell someone else that I was a MILF, I was horrified, but then thought, good, I still must look pretty good. It all depends on the person.
I didn't lose my freedom. I made sure I still looked after my body and spent intimate time with my husband and such, I just had a little army to raise while I was doing it
Yes u can my baby go to my mom ever weekend and i go out to the club and shake my a$$
she dont do $hit anyway she has nolife
your body normally cant handle alot of kids and still look good everyone is different tho
I like to pamper myself and dress properly but God forbid I get ever called a MILF! I find it quite insulting, don't you?
i still have fun, i still get all dolled up and do my hair...
It depends on how you look at it.
Yes, you're still able to look good and have fun! Some women don't and end up frumpy, but I personally see no obstacle. I had a baby 3 months ago and don't look any different except for the scar, and no one but my husband sees that anyway ;) If take good care of yourself and put pride into your appearance, yes, you'll be just as good looking as before.
People who say kids take all the fun out of adult life aren't trying hard enough or aren't looking for fun very hard! My daughter's 3 months and we have two foster daughters (my nieces) - yeah, a lot of time and energy goes into them, but it's very rewarding and can be a lot of fun. To me, anyway. Just because you have kids doesn't mean you have no life outside them - not if you don't let that happen.
Life's still fun! My husband and I still go out on our date night once a week; we still do all the stuff we used to. He still goes out drinking with his college buddies, I still go to the movies with my girlfriends. If anything, having our daughter has made life more fun.
So yes, your kids will always come first and kids are incredibly time-consuming, but having children (unless you're like that lady in Arkansas with 18 of them) is no block on having fun and lookin' hot! You can have your cake and eat it too (I never did understand that expression... why would you get cake and not eat it? Anyway, it works here.) if you try hard and realize that your new role as a mum doesn't totally define you and you are still allowed to take time for yourself and do things for yourself. It doesn't make you vain or self-absorbed, it just means that you care enough about yourself to do that.
As for the MILF thing... I think I'd steer clear of anyone immature enough to be saying that kind of thing, but would be flattered none-the-less. It's a compliment, even if it is dumb.
