Using a parent as a child care provider?My mom take care of my child. She doesn't work. Can I still use her?

My mom is unemployed and receives medicare. She takes care of my child while I work. Can I use her as my care provider without anything happening to her medicare benefits?Using a parent as a child care provider?My mom take care of my child. She doesn't work. Can I still use her?
Absolutely. Good for you, great for mom, and your child is benefiting.





Now, if you're paying her, that's a different matter. If she is on disability and medicare, and you are paying her for more than ten hours a week, she is violating the law.Using a parent as a child care provider?My mom take care of my child. She doesn't work. Can I still use her?
Totally separate issues.





If you do not claim your mom as a dependent and you paid her for child care, the expenses are eligible for the child care credit, BUT your mother MUST declare the income on her taxes.





If she babysat at your home, you are supposed to issue her a W-2 and pay the payroll taxes with your tax return. If she babysat at her house, she's self-employed and owes the same payroll taxes (15.3%) if she made more than $400.





If this affects her status with medicare, so be it. If the medicare is based on lack of income, it's not like she didn't work.
Medicare is unaffected; that is based on age. See Page 8 of the link.

How would you react if you found out another parent allowed your child to watch an R rated movie at their home?

I just read another question and it made me think of this:





Say you had an 8-12 year old that spent the night at a friend's house, and you found out when they got home that the parents allowed them to watch an R rated movie without contacting you first.





What would your reaction be?How would you react if you found out another parent allowed your child to watch an R rated movie at their home?
Regardless of whether or not I let my own kid watch R rated movies, I'd be upset they didn't contact me first because a ton of parents won't let their pre teen watch R rated movies. Unless they knew for sure, somehow, that it was a movie you were fine with them seeing, they should call you. Like, say they knew you'd watched Gladiator with them the other day, and they'd be showing the Matrix. Even though the Matrix is far less bloody than Gladiator, there are other factors to consider, like that YOU watched it with them, Gladiator has historical value, etc.


You just never know.How would you react if you found out another parent allowed your child to watch an R rated movie at their home?
Depends on what the movie is/what makes it mature. There are some R-rated movies I believe are okay for that age set and others that are not.





I would first talk with my child because by that age they should have some sense of what is appropriate and what is not. Then, if the movie was really bad and the parents showed a severe lack of judgment, I would speak with the parents and let them know that I'm not upset, but in the future I would appreciate it if they kept the mature movies to a minimum. But, like I said, I would speak with the parents if I felt the nature of the movie of warranted it. This obviously, varies from parent to parent.
I guess it would depend on the circumstances. I would be more annoyed about them not asking me first than I would be about them allowing my child to see it. As long as it wasn't porn, I don't see the big deal, I don't plan on sheltering my daughter from everything.





ETA: I can't believe the amount of people saying their child would be in trouble in this situation. Children trust adults, especially their friends parents. In this situation they probably wouldn't even know they are doing something wrong, because they were told it is okay by another adult. How many of you actually tell your children BEFORE they go to another person's house that your rules still apply even though they are in someone else's home? It would not be fair to be angry at the child in this situation.
I would outline things that *are* and are *not* okay, before allowing my kids to stay the night, to begin with... If it were reversed, I would also ask the parent whose child would be staying with us, what's okay and not okay with them... Communication... Without it, I'd have only myself to blame! (Fortunately, my kids know what I allow and what I don't... They would speak up, and say, ';I can't watch that.'; Or, ';Let me check with my parents.';)





Now, if the other parent allowed it, despite my wishes, that would be the last time my kid was going over there, and I'd have some words, first... But, again, my kids already know. And, I DO let my older two (11 and 10) watch *some* R movies, but I fast-forward some parts, when necessary, and that's ME, not someone else. :)
Honestly;





it depends on what movie it is. now and days they show R rated things on television and people curse on the radio. so for the parents to show an R-rated movie is one of the last things that you should truly be upset about. Your son/daughter knows what they were watching and you could simply explain to the parents and to your child what is or is not okay. In this day and age boundaries need to be set just because people parent their child in so many different ways.
i'd be mad at my kid for watching it even though they are well aware that it is not allowed. then i'd let the parents know that from now on i'd appreciate it if they didn't let my kid watch r rated movies anymore.





BUT i'm not that kind of parent and as long as there's not a ton of gore or sex then my kids are ok to watch it.
This happened to my sister last year and she was fit to be tied. But it didn't happen at a friends house it happened over at Grandpa's house with the father present which kind of is worse. I would call a Family Meeting to order and explain to the children what goes on in other people's homes is their business and they have different rules. Let them know how disappointed you were that the family didn't consult you first. Let them know what you expect them to do in the future if this happens again.
I would totally be offended. It's totally irresponsible for host parents to do that. Before allowing your kids for sleepovers, it's really important to at least get a good overview of the values that they hold. Ask plenty of questions and make sure that you both agree on the rules that need to be obeyed.
Well, during Halloween last year, my MIL and step FIL allowed my 3 year old daughter to watch horror movies (not the extremely bad parts though... that was their excuse). She ended up having nightmares, waking up thinking there was a ghost under her bed. Geez... it seemed like it took forever for her to get over that. Needless to say, I didn't hesitate telling them to stick it where the sun don't shine.
I would not allow my child to sleep over at that house again until age 17. I would not punish the child, or be angry with the parents (they just have different standards than me), but now I know they are not the people I want to put in charge of my child.
id be a lil upset but id just go talk to them and tell them i dont allow my kid to watch movies that are rater R and then i'd sit with my kid and be like ur not allowed to watch rater r movies until ur 17 or w/e
I would be alittle upset. And i would have to take to the parents about it. And if they still do it....my daughter wont be able to hang out over there anymore.
i would go completely off my nut!!!


not only at the parents of my child's friend but also my child would get into trouble because they would know they weren't allowed to watch something like that.
it happened and Im PISSED this JERK FATHER who is a border patrol agent let two, 9 yr olds watch clock work orange


I didnt hear about it till 4 yrs later!! They are no longer friends so ..what can ya do
I wouldn't say anything, but my child wouldn't go to that house again.
I would be upset about it. I would have their kid play at my house from now on.
It would depend on the movie, not all R rated movies are that bad
I would be very angry considering my daughter is 5.
depends what the R movie is...............
don't shelter you children
Yet another reason why spending the night is something I won't ever let my children do.





I would be angry at my child. My children have been taught that anything over PG they have to ask my permission first, so I would be expecting a phone call from them. If I didn't get it, they would be grounded for sure.





That means that when someone suggests a movie, my child has to ask what the rating is, and if it's higher than PG, they need to call me.





I had the same rule growing up. Even as a teen, I had to check with my parents before watching PG13 or higher. It didn't bother me in the slightest. My parents were wise and knew that I couldn't handle much violence or sex, that it would creep me out, so I was actually glad for someone to blame on not wanting to watch certain movies--';My parents won't let me';. Most people understand that!





On another note, when I was 9, I went to a slumber birthday party for a girl in my class at school. At about 2 am, when we girls were still not asleep, someone turned the TV on and lo and behold, her dad's porn channel was showing. The girls all started to watch, intrigued and curious, but I knew it was wrong, I just felt it (never been taught it was or even exposed to porn before, something just told me it wasn't right to watch that stuff) and I called my dad at 2 am and asked him to come get me. I became the target of the girls in my grade for the rest of the time we lived there, but I knew I had done the right thing. My parents were upset that the parents were so loose and didn't try to reign us in at all, but they were glad that I had enough sense to get out of there.

As a parent, what sort of qualities do you look for when you first meet a potential babysitter?

What kinds of questions would you like the sitter to ask you. What would you ask the sitter. What sort of things would put you at ease in trusting this person?As a parent, what sort of qualities do you look for when you first meet a potential babysitter?
* Energy level (Is she going to sit on the couch all night watching tv? Or will she jump right in and get the kids interested in a game or something)


* Confidence (You just know when someone knows what they're doing and when someone is nervous about the job)


* Demeanor around my kids (Does she talk to them nicely? Seem interested in what they're doing at the moment?)


* Punctuality - It's always a red flag if someone shows up late





BONUS - If she brings any kind of game or craft for the kids to do.





We rarely use babysitters, but when we do we pay very well if they're good.As a parent, what sort of qualities do you look for when you first meet a potential babysitter?
If at all possible, try to get a babysitter that your friends or family have used. That is the best indicator. When I was young, my parents would only ask a babysitter back if we liked her, so if you know someone who uses one particular babysitter frequently that's a good sign.


Also, just in my opinion, male babysitters are much more likely to be active and playful and less likely to sit on the couch watching tv all night.


When I babysat, I always asked if the kids required any medication, what their bedtime was, anything they weren't allowed to do, etc. If you want to see if you have a responsible babysitter, don't offer this information up front and see if they ask. I would NEVER trust a babysitter who was content to let you leave without this info.


Finally, ask what they charge per hour and go with it. I hated when parents would pay me at the end of the night and say, ';Is that ok?'; Even if it wasn't ok, I wouldn't say anything because I was young and it was too awkward.
I don't have a kid but I am a baby sitter....





I am always asked.....





How many kids do I usually watch at a time


How many kids do I watch all together


How much do I charge per hour





Then I come a day early and let them see how the kids like me and how I like the kids...





A day early...

How do you know if a parent acid/parent base is strong or weak?

Also, how would I find the parent acid/parent base of something? Forexample MgF2? thank you!How do you know if a parent acid/parent base is strong or weak?
Memorize the strong acids:


HCl = hydrochoric acid


HNO3 = nitric acid


H2SO4 = sulfuric acid


HClO3 = chloric acid


HClO4 = perchloric acid


HBr = hydrobromic acid


HI = hydroiodic acid


Memorize the strong bases:


IA %26amp; IIA hydroxides





Virtually all other acids and bases are weak.


Weak acids include:


HC2H3O2 = acetic acid


H2CO3 = carbonic acid


H3PO4 = phosphoric acid


Organic carboxylic acids like citric, tartaric, oxalic, butyric, acetylsalicylic, ....


Weak bases include:


NH3 (or NH4OH) = ammonia (ammonium hydroxide)


Organic amines like aminomethane (CH3-NH2), aminopropane (CH3-CH2-CH2-NH2), ...





MgF2 contains Mg2+ and F-. This salt comes from mixing an acid and a base. Since Mg2+ is positive, it must come from the base, Mg(OH)2. Since F- is negative, it must come from the acid HF.


Mg(OH)2 + 2HF -----%26gt; MgF2 + 2H2O


Base + Acid -----%26gt; A Salt + Water

How long does it take to become a foster parent, and what are the criteria?

From the moment we begin the process, about how long does it take before we would welcome a child into our home? And what sort of criteria do they have? Credit scores, employment, owning our own home, education level...?How long does it take to become a foster parent, and what are the criteria?
Ok, the foster care process is reasonably standard in most places, there may be some monor differences, but not many. Firstly, the criteria is pretty open. You can be single, living together, married, etc. You are given a comprehensive criminal history check, and they ask about your income, but there aren't any actual income restraints. You can own or rent your home, but there must be space for the child, and he or she must be able to have their own room.


There is no employment status or education level requirement, they recognise that raising children is about life skills, and most of their questions will focus around this.


Your home is checked for safety, such as medicines and poisons locked away, pets being child friendly, etc, pool fences, stair gates, etc.


They will talk to you about your own upbringing, your relationships with your family, your partner, friends and community. They will ask you about your parenting style, and give you some scenarios so you can tell them how you would handle children in a range of situations.





Usually, they come out to your house for a few interviews, and they're really not that bad! My social worker was lovely, and we ended up having a good chat most of the time! At the end of the assessment process, you have to attend some training classes, the length varies from place to place, but it's usually around a month. These are actually really useful, and they're more for giving you the information that you want, rather than real 'classes'. I enjoyed mine.


For me, the whole process from start to finish took around 9 months, but it really depends on the availability of resources, how desperate the need is, etc.


Oh, and I nearly forgot, there's an initial information session as well, to give you some general info on what it's all about.


I think that's everything, feel free to email me if you want to know more, or need any help.How long does it take to become a foster parent, and what are the criteria?
That depends on where you live. If you visit the National Foster Parents Association Website, you can find info about your state. In some places you need 30 hours of training prior to placement and in some places it is as low as six hours. In some places, you must supply 40 square feet of bedroom space per child, in other places, it is more or less. In some places, you can take your first placement while you are finishing up your first round of training and other places, not. There are credit checks in some states and not others. Home ownership is not mandatory, but your home must be safe. In many states you must prove that you can pay your bills without using the money the state allocates for the care of the child.
Each state will be different. Foster parents are generally so hard to find that the criteria is pretty low (no offense to anyone). Much lower than it is for adoption (go figure). USUALLY, you don't need to own your home, have a high school dipolma, or good credit. You can't have any child abuse history and criminal history is also checked. You would have to attend classes too.
http://www.dss.virginia.gov/family/fc/pa鈥?/a>
I'm not sure where you're located but if you Google your state's name and the term ';foster care'; you'll come up with your state's requirements and process.





You'll need to go through classes (ours were 30 hours spread out over a 10 week period...we went one night a week for 3 hours). You'll need to be CPR certified. You'll need to get your home up to code (fence around a pool if you have one, a fire extinguisher %26amp; stuff like that). You'll be fingerprinted %26amp; they'll do criminal %26amp; child abuse/neglect background checks. They'll check references, employment and such. I don't think they look at credit scores at least in our state.





There's no requirements about owning or renting a home (just to have adequate space and each child needs their own bed). No requirements about education levels.





Google your state about foster care %26amp; see what you can find out and also who to contact to start the process.





We are adoptive parents (internationally) but we've also been foster parents for about two years. We've taken several kids into our home %26amp; considered adopting one of them. We love doing this, it's a very fulfilling thing.
Good for you!! Considering being a foster parent...it's not always easy...but it can be very rewarding...





In MO there is an 8 week course. And of course they do background checks and homestudies to make sure your home is safe and ready for children..and they will tell you what the requirements for the house will be You don't have to own..you can have an apartment even.





Because we were already taking the courses and had passed the homestudy and background checkes.....we actually already had a kid in our home before we completed the classes..





So good luck - and open your arms to those waiting children.

Who do I address my child support payment to? The parent or the child support office?

I am sending in a child support payment for a friend who is out of town, Not sure who the check should be addresed to? I know I mail the payment to the child support office but am unclear as to who to address the actual check?Who do I address my child support payment to? The parent or the child support office?
Child Support should always be paid through the system.


http://dads-house.org/


\\\\\\\\\\Who do I address my child support payment to? The parent or the child support office?
The mother and keep in mind it should not be done in cash or he can get in trouble. Also if there is a court order then I recommend you do it by sending an Money Order in case she lies in which women do often
Most offices want the check made out to the Child Support Bureau with a Case number included. This prevents the payer from sending Insufficient Fund checks to the recipient.
you address it to the office with the case number written on the memo line. the check is being paid to the child support office and then they dispense the cash. how do i know? been there, done that.
call the office.
maybe ask him?

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