because at 16 the child can legally just leave. if you try too hard to enforce rules like that, it can leave home or run away and just drink way too much on its own.How can a parent prevent a 16 year old from drinking alcohol?
Erm well i think you should teach him to drink safely. Tell him he can drink a few beers your in the house. ect. Or he can have a few friends round and have a few drinks. Meet him inbetween he doenst drink too much and you will be cool about it.
But seriously i think it would be worse parenting to let him get to 18 and think o i can drink now im going to get recked! every week end. Where as if he drinks in small amounts now the novalty has gone. I think even david cameron said that he agrees underage drinking isnt a bad thing when supervised and not too crazly. I mean if he was 15 maybe but hes 16 now he will be 18 in two years... hes old enough to get married and have a house , he must be old enough to have a sly beer with his mates when your int he house ectHow can a parent prevent a 16 year old from drinking alcohol?
It is illegal for anyone under the age of 18 to buy alcohol. Your parents probably have your best interests at heart. Why not try talking the problem through with them? Agreed that at 16 you can leave home but where are you going to live? How are you going to get the money to live on (or buy alcohol)? You'll still be in the position that it would be illegal for you to buy alcohol or for anyone else to buy it for you.
You can lock them up and not let them out of your sight until they're 21. But that's not always possible, nor is it too good for your relationship.
Or you can talk to them about drinking, and hope some of your message will sink in. But just telling them that it's wrong, dangerous, illegal, or that they'll get in big trouble usually isn't enough. Most teens aren't motivated by fear, because they don't think anything bad will happen to them.
What teens are motivated by is ';What people think of me.'; If they think drinking will make them look cool, they're going to do it.
If you have a daughter, you might talk to her about how drinking can give girls a skanky reputation. How, when you're drunk, you might end up making out (or worse) with some gross guy you normally wouldn't like, and how everyone will be talking and laughing about it the next day at school. You can point out other girls who have bad reputations, who people talk about behind their backs. That *might* have some effect, if she cares about her reputation.
If they're involved in a sport that means a lot to them, you can possibly scare them away from drinking by reminding them that they could be kicked off the team if they're caught drinking. And point out that even if they're just holding a beer, or just take one sip, someone can still say, ';I saw him at a party with a beer';... and then they're busted. Being kicked off a team would be pretty embarrassing.
You can show them graphic photos of nasty accidents; or sad stories of people losing loved ones because of drunk driving. You can tell them that they can call you anytime and you'll come pick them up, no questions asked.
And then you just hope and pray that they make good decisions.
Depends on where you are. In the states a child cant legally leave until they are 18. If they just leave or run away, you can call the cops on them to bring them back. If they run away too many times, they can be sent to juvy for it. Since its illegal, you can always call the cops on them. If they are underage, you can send them to a rehab facility.
Short of following your child around 24/7, you can't. The best you can do is to fully educate your child on the effects of his/her choices, so that they understand why not to drink, the risks of drinking, and if they choose to drink anyway, how to do so safely. I would way rather my child have one drink at a party and then spend the night or call me for a ride home than for him to have 12 drinks, get in a drunk friend's car, and wind up in the hospital or worse! Like with sex or even drugs, you can't physically prevent your child from all types of harm, not at age 16. The best you can do is teach them to make good choices and ways to make certain behaviors less dangerous (condoms, don't drink and drive, limit your drinking, drink water too, eat food when you drink, signs you've had too much to drink, etc...) Hopefully that is enough, but it is all we can do.
If we took the approach that our kids can just leave, what would be the point in parenting? You ask where they are going to be, find out if parents will be there and demand them home at a certain time. Above that, teens will be teens (I know I was depsite good parents) and hope that they will make decisions that reflect the values and common sense you have done your best to instill.
Unfortunately, theres no way of stopping them, because u cant be with them 24/7 and if they are gunna do it. They will with permission or not! The best thing to do is just get ur point across that they shouldnt drink and that u would be really disappointed in them if they were to lie to you about not drinking and they did.
There are a few solutions to this problem..
1. Get them so drunk they never do i again
2. Let them drink only when supervised by adults
3. Get him caught by the government hopefully ending up in rehab or house arrest etc..
p.s. let me know how it goes
lets be honest, its inevitable that they will go drinking. They should not be so against it and give out punishments but be more cool about it. It actually works better that way.
i think if you give to many rules, there is more reason to break them! especially for teenagers. maybe a controlled involvement is ok!
Not in the states they can't legally leave. If you parent from a perspective that they may get angry or runaway, then you have already lost.
They can't, but you can use your brain and not drink under aged.
Take them to a rehab or the jail so they can see what the consquences look like.
you make sure they are smarter than your average loser teenager bent on rebellion
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